Even if with the same words, we like to communicate with someone, but may not with someone else. What causes the difference? The intellectual level of speech? The content of words? The tone?
Communicating well is about ‘the mind’ of the person speaking.
If you listen to the other’s words with no mind, you can communicate well with others. Listening without judgment and frame comes naturally to them, and they listen to you as well.
I used to have difficulty communicating with others. Through meditation, I was able to find the reason within me and find a solution.
Looking back on my mind, I was able to see deeply how I treat people. My mind was filled with reproachful thoughts about others and a feeling of ‘I’m right.’ My words reflected my thoughts. So with my words, I used to wound others’ feelings. It was hard to control because my mind was already filled with a self-centered mind. The mind I had was like a thorn. That’s why it was difficult to communicate.
I could discard those thorns that I had with meditation.
I had big changes through discarding the mind. The process of emptying my mind was the process of removing my thorns. All the minds that I had were self-centered. More I discard my self-centered mind, my judgment of others reduced naturally and I could accept others better. The more I discard the minds, my true mind which is our original mind revealed. Communication becomes much more comfortable. And people liked to listen to me as well.
When we treat others with a true mind which is our origin, we can truly communicate well with others. The most effective way to communicate well is to cleanse one’s mind(ex. frame, judgment, mind that I am right, the mind of blame, etc.)
Even kids know what kind of mind I speak with. Cleansing our minds is an essential process for everyone. if you want to know how to improve communication, plz refer to below.🌱
